Comments on: Accountability - Trust I Give to Me http://inflowservices.com/weblog/2010/10/03/accountability-trust-i-give-to-me/ Thu, 20 Jun 2013 10:30:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: DJ http://inflowservices.com/weblog/2010/10/03/accountability-trust-i-give-to-me/#comment-7408 DJ Thu, 30 Dec 2010 23:16:10 +0000 http://inflowservices.com/weblog/?p=55#comment-7408 Hi Linda, I hear you about "why being accountable to ourselves is so much harder." It can sure seem that way sometimes. I have come to know that asking "Why?" is the wrong question. I've asked "why" most of my life and when I get an answer it is a booby-prize in that it gets me no where. So I know why. Now what? Where and how do I move from here? How do I change? How do I stop doing what I've always done and expecting a different result? I have found the inquiry process of Byron Katie called <a href="http://www.thework.com/index.php" rel="nofollow">The Work</a> is incredibly helpful. It really is a writing meditation and in my experience is far deeper than our thinking mind can conceive. It is a process of identifying something we believe that may be causing us stress, asking 4 questions, and then turning the thought around. This looking at a thought from other angles is a mind-opening process and the result is a heart-opening. The process and the forms are available on <a href="http://www.thework.com/index.php" rel="nofollow">Byron Katie's site</a> at no charge. Here is a suggestion: 1. Pick the one thing you really want to do the most that you frustratingly find yourself not doing. I really want to do ___________________. 2. Then fill in the blank in the next sentence with as many things as you can come up with. I am afraid ____________ would happen if I did what I said I wanted to do (from 1. above - loosing weight, spending time w/ family, or starting a business of your own, etc.....) Close your eyes and sit with this quietly. Allow your wisdom to come through. Write all your answers down. Don't edit - even if the thought seems to not fit or your mind judges it as silly or worse. 3. Then apply the inquiry process of Byron Katie to each one of the fears that came up in 2. above. Resistance is rooted in fear. Find the fear - give the thoughts space to let go of you through the inquiry process - resistance falls away - with that motivation increases. Or if motivation does not increase you may have found that you don't actually want to do what you thought you wanted to. If more stressful thoughts arise take them to inquiry one-by-one. Thanx for taking the time to write. Luv. Hi Linda, I hear you about “why being accountable to ourselves is so much harder.” It can sure seem that way sometimes. I have come to know that asking “Why?” is the wrong question. I’ve asked “why” most of my life and when I get an answer it is a booby-prize in that it gets me no where. So I know why. Now what? Where and how do I move from here? How do I change? How do I stop doing what I’ve always done and expecting a different result?

I have found the inquiry process of Byron Katie called The Work is incredibly helpful. It really is a writing meditation and in my experience is far deeper than our thinking mind can conceive. It is a process of identifying something we believe that may be causing us stress, asking 4 questions, and then turning the thought around. This looking at a thought from other angles is a mind-opening process and the result is a heart-opening. The process and the forms are available on Byron Katie’s site at no charge.

Here is a suggestion:

1. Pick the one thing you really want to do the most that you frustratingly find yourself not doing. I really want to do ___________________.

2. Then fill in the blank in the next sentence with as many things as you can come up with.

I am afraid ____________ would happen if I did what I said I wanted to do (from 1. above - loosing weight, spending time w/ family, or starting a business of your own, etc…..)

Close your eyes and sit with this quietly. Allow your wisdom to come through. Write all your answers down. Don’t edit - even if the thought seems to not fit or your mind judges it as silly or worse.

3. Then apply the inquiry process of Byron Katie to each one of the fears that came up in 2. above.

Resistance is rooted in fear. Find the fear - give the thoughts space to let go of you through the inquiry process - resistance falls away - with that motivation increases. Or if motivation does not increase you may have found that you don’t actually want to do what you thought you wanted to. If more stressful thoughts arise take them to inquiry one-by-one.

Thanx for taking the time to write. Luv.

]]> By: DJ http://inflowservices.com/weblog/2010/10/03/accountability-trust-i-give-to-me/#comment-7406 DJ Thu, 30 Dec 2010 21:46:54 +0000 http://inflowservices.com/weblog/?p=55#comment-7406 Jill I read your note on Dec. 15th. I'd woken up questioning my blogging because I am irregular and had concluded that I am good with that - I do it for myself and if there is value for others - bonus. Then reading your note I got a wonderful hit of external validation and I laughed out loud! The Universe truly is friendly. :-) Glad to hear you are busy, hope you had a good Christmas and look forward to catching up soon. Thanx for taking the time to write. Luv. Jill I read your note on Dec. 15th. I’d woken up questioning my blogging because I am irregular and had concluded that I am good with that - I do it for myself and if there is value for others - bonus. Then reading your note I got a wonderful hit of external validation and I laughed out loud! The Universe truly is friendly. :-) Glad to hear you are busy, hope you had a good Christmas and look forward to catching up soon. Thanx for taking the time to write. Luv.

]]> By: Linda Petiot http://inflowservices.com/weblog/2010/10/03/accountability-trust-i-give-to-me/#comment-7233 Linda Petiot Tue, 21 Dec 2010 01:53:43 +0000 http://inflowservices.com/weblog/?p=55#comment-7233 I've never heard it this way before, tied to trust. I like the context that it brings, it makes it more personal and, in turn, makes being accountable matter of pride in what we do. I struggle with why being accountable to ourselves is so much harder. Even when it comes to the things we really want to do like loosing weight, spending time w/ family, or starting a business of your own it sometimes seems like an overwhelming effort. I think other emotions (besides pride) must be in play and if we aren't continually being mindful of what we want for ourselves and why (i.e. those personal accountabilities) those other things distract us, or wear us down. I think you also have to be mindful of those 'other things' though, and learn to deal with them... easier said than done ;^) I’ve never heard it this way before, tied to trust. I like the context that it brings, it makes it more personal and, in turn, makes being accountable matter of pride in what we do.

I struggle with why being accountable to ourselves is so much harder. Even when it comes to the things we really want to do like loosing weight, spending time w/ family, or starting a business of your own it sometimes seems like an overwhelming effort. I think other emotions (besides pride) must be in play and if we aren’t continually being mindful of what we want for ourselves and why (i.e. those personal accountabilities) those other things distract us, or wear us down. I think you also have to be mindful of those ‘other things’ though, and learn to deal with them… easier said than done ;^)

]]> By: Jill Mitchell http://inflowservices.com/weblog/2010/10/03/accountability-trust-i-give-to-me/#comment-7124 Jill Mitchell Tue, 14 Dec 2010 22:04:59 +0000 http://inflowservices.com/weblog/?p=55#comment-7124 Hi DJ, You are an amazing writer. I have been reading your blog and it is so well written and insightful. I will read from now on!! Hope all is well and you are ready for Christmas. We are in Invermere and for the first time I am crazy busy and so behind in everything, haven't even sent out xmas cards. sigh... oh well, I do what I can. Again, hope all is well and Merry Christmas!! Jill Hi DJ,

You are an amazing writer. I have been reading your blog and it is so well written and insightful. I will read from now on!! Hope all is well and you are ready for Christmas. We are in Invermere and for the first time I am crazy busy and so behind in everything, haven’t even sent out xmas cards. sigh… oh well, I do what I can. Again, hope all is well and Merry Christmas!!

Jill

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